Getting Older

 

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I’m currently taking a psychology class as part of my overall classes in college. It’s been pretty intense with regard as to how I see myself and life in general. Last week, I had to ask five people questions and one of them was: “What makes you happy?”.

I’ve been thinking long and hard about what my answer(s) would be. I also realized that I had to be brutally honest with myself about those answers. This year I will be forty-eight years old; 4-8. Two years shy of fifty (50). Hell I didn’t think I’d make it pass my teens with all that I was going through and yet here I am…

I’m not scared of getting “old”. What scares me is not living life the way I know it’s meant to be lived;which also includes not living up to my full potential. While talking about fears, let me share a few. I have a terrible fear of drowning.  When I was younger, a relative decided he would teach me to swim by throwing me out in the middle of deep water. I almost drowned that day. Considering I’d love to scuba dive, someone suggested I take swimming lessons. Feeling lonely is another fear. I’m not scared of being alone but I know what it’s like to feel lonely and I don’t ever want to experience that again.

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24 Human Character Strengths and Core Virtues

I came across your blog while doing research for my psychology class.

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“The Character Strengths and Virtues (CSV) handbook of human strengths and virtues by Christopher Peterson and Martin Seligman, represents the first attempt on the part of the psychological research community to identify and classify the positive psychological traits of human beings. The CSV identifies six classes of virtue (i.e., “core virtues”), made up of twenty-four measurable character strengths.” (Source: Wikipedia)

Strengths of Wisdom and Knowledge:Cognitive strengths that entail the acquisition and skillful use of knowledge.
1. Creativity & Imagination [originality, ingenuity]: Thinking of novel and productive ways to conceptualize and do things.
2. Curiosity [interest, novelty-seeking, openness to experience]: Taking an interest in ongoing experience for its own sake; exploring and discovering.
3. Open-mindedness [holistic judgment, critical thinking]: Thinking things through and examining them from all sides; weighing all evidence fairly.
4. Love of learning: Mastering new skills, topics, and bodies of knowledge, whether on one’s…

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2017 Goals

It’s like the saying goes “write it down and then make it happen.” I’m more of a visual person, so I’ll print this out and hang up near my computer and on the fridge which will hopefully keep me on track.

My (personal) goals for 2017….

Purchase a second car for the hubster, so that I can use the van.

Start a meet-up group. I had quite a few members on my previous group but couldn’t keep it up due to our car situation.

Apply for a part time job related to what I’m in college for. I recently learned that I could work as a “sitter” for kids at a behavioral center.

Write and blog more (I so miss writing outside of college)

Start exercising/becoming active (applies to the hubster too)

Eat healthier (applies to the hubster too)

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Carnival Triumph Cruise (2016)

Time seemed to have ended way too soon, although I think a 5 day cruise is our limit at the moment. We had an amazing time and while there were a few hiccups (that’s life for ya) I would definitely sail on Carnival and Triumph again.

The only disappointing issue in Cozumel was not having the clear water at the island but that’s the chance you take, not only when traveling during hurricane season but mother nature can and does have a mind of her own.

There are plenty of things I would have done differently (like take pictures and videos the right way – LOL) which I will post about later on. I will also add the Funtimes and go more in depth about this cruise at a later time as well.

For now, here is Day One of our cruise. The rest are posted on my Youtube channel @ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAux9dN6cqXooyxTE_CQ-gA

My 1st Cruise

I will be adding “My 2nd Cruise” with the (new) hubster at some point!! I’m really hoping we (start to) travel more, whether state side or abroad. I look back at all the traveling I’ve done and can kick myself for never really stopping to take in the sights/sites. But anywho…

I’m not exactly sure how I was initially introduced to cruising but whatever the case may be, it has become something that I enjoy.

My first cruise was with my (late)husband. We drove from Oklahoma to Florida a few days in advance because we decided to make this an all in one trip. We stopped to see my family and then his which worked out because my (former) step-son was able to spend time with his grandparents and cousins.

It was only a 3 day cruise on Carnival Sensation and the port was Nassau, Bahamas.

With my (late)husband dealing with cancer, I spent a lot of time by myself exploring the ship. If he was able to hang out, he did so but I understood why he couldn’t, when he didn’t. I didn’t book any excursions for that reason (not knowing how he’d feel) but on the day we docked in Nassau, he was up to exploring.

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Vacation

 

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The hubster and I will be going on vacation soon and I cannot wait to travel with him.

It’s been a bumpy road for us as we haven’t been on the same page in a long time. I’ve been holding onto a lot of anger and hurt and not only has it been detrimental to our marriage but my health (in all areas) as well. I will speak (write) on this is another blog post.

This post is about our vacation…

We are booked on a cruise (his 2nd and my 3rd cruise) and we’ll be travelling to Cozumel and Yucatan (Progresso).  Unlike our last cruise, I booked excursions for this trip. I’m really excited about seeing the ruins, which is something that I’ve always wanted to do. It’s not the bigger ruins (too long of a drive) but something is better than nothing. We’ll be touring  Dzibilchaltún ruins.

In Cozumel, we’ll be sipping on fruity drinks while relaxing at Isla Passion. Just praying that no bad weather forces us to miss either ports. Either way, we’ll make the most of our cruise. I also upgraded us to a balcony, so it’ll be nice, weather permitted, to sit out there and just take it all in.

We Are Our Worst Critic…

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Within the last 3 months or so, I’ve gained at least 20 lbs. It could be a combination of my medical issues –  Hypothyroidism. My Hysterectomy  – Note to self: Make appointment to have levels checked since I’m on hormonal medication. My not eating healthy which includes my addiction to soda at times. Not exercising…

Previously to my taking note of my weight gain, I was already feeling down in the dumps as I have never been this overweight before. However, I’ve never been one to shy away from taking pictures and posting them (online), regardless as to what I’m wearing. When it comes to wearing certain clothing in public – now. Not happening! No sir reeeee!!!

I’d bought a pretty swimsuit at Wal-Mart awhile back. I wore it to take a picture in  and then only wore the top out. I have NEVER worn a bikini (the bottom) before (let alone in public) but I bought this particular swimsuit that has it. I kept telling myself that I was going to step out of my comfort zone (eventually) and wear it in public. That time came over the weekend when the hubster and I went down to the pool to swim.

I recently did a semi-chop to my hair, so excuse the wild hair look *smiling*. Hoping I can stay on this natural hair journey because relaxers seem to be killing my hair.

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Time

It has become (painfully) aware to me that I’m not using my time effectively. Every day I lose about 4 – 5 hours because I’m sleeping. It’s a combination of my medical issues and going to bed late. By the time I wake up (around noon and as late as 2 p.m.) half the day is already gone.

So what does one need to do to change this? Plan!

I will be printing this out to place on fridge

Monday – Friday

  • Make sure to eat breakfast when I fix the hubster his.
  • Do whatever chores need to be done.
  • Zumba on the Xbox
  • Check emails and social media. Respond if necessary.
  • Snack
  • Spend 1 – 2 hours on classwork.
  • Shower
  • Eat lunch
  • Take nap if feeling tired and not feel guilty about it
  • Spend time blogging, working on organization (not giving up on this) reading or anything “fun” that I enjoy doing.
  • Start dinner around 5 p.m, so we can eat between 6 p.m. – 6:30 p.m.
  • Watch an episode or 2 of Lost.  Will catch up with Lost in our bedroom on weekends that we have kids 
  • Head to gym around 7:30 p.m. Hoping to do at least 4 times a week
  • Shower after getting home around 8 p.m or shower at gym.
  • Make sure house is tidy before bed
  • Climb into bed to: read, watch a movie or play a board game with the hubster
  • Hoping to be asleep around 10 p.m.

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Not So Randomness!

School is becoming stressful but I’m keeping my eyes on the prize.

My mind is so cluttered right now.  I think I may need Yoga in my life like for real.  Usually when I’m feeling this way it’s because I’m not as close with God as I should be.

A trip the hubster and I had planned for our 4 year wedding anniversary, had to be cancelled. Getting my degree is one of the top priorities for me at the moment. At least he’s had some much needed time off from work. We haven’t killed (figure of speech) each other, so that says a lot. Ha!

Before heading out to dinner to celebrate our 4 year wedding anniversary. I always notice just how short I am when I stand next to him.

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I’m really loving our apartment and the complex. Now if they’d fix the damn treadmills that are broken, I’d be even happier. We’ve yet to try out the pool but maybe this weekend cause it’s hot than a mutha here in Florida!  The tenants above us though. I swear they have heavy feet cause damn…

I’ve gained 20 lbs in 3 months. I want some answers when I see my doctor on the 14th. I also have some new symptoms that have popped up. One being my need to constantly tinkle.

This year I’ll turn 47 years old. I count my blessings often that I’m still living and breathing because when I look back on my life…

I’m getting back into meal prepping. I HATE to cook and found this site that wont make it so bad to do so. My Body. My Kitchen

I’ve found that I cuss way more than I should since I started college. I’m still a f*cking lady though…LOL! That comedian, Adele Givens, came to mind for some reason as I started typing.

I miss my mom so very much. I still get hit with the reality (even though it’s been almost 3 years since her death) at times that she is no longer here and it’s hard to wrap my head around that.

My vision board

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